You Are Not Alone

Women thrive in community. We wrap ourselves in the support of other women to help us through life’s ups and downs. It’s our mom groups helping us through scary parenting moments, aunts and older cousins taking us for our first (fill in the blank), book club friends processing everything but the book, bridal parties, sororities, knitting circles, groups of girls analyzing the text of a new love interest.  Advising, supporting, cheering, celebrating, holding. It’s what we crave and yearn for.  These groups of women define so many of the important moments of our lives. 

And then there is our relationship with money. 

Crickets chirp. 

Here so many of us are silent and alone. Worn out family values of “we don’t talk about money” means that the older generation of women haven’t taught younger generations to talk about money, much less navigate it. Worn out and shame-filled patriarchal society values teach us all that it is rude to talk about money. Never tell anyone what you make. Never tell anyone how much you have. Never tell anyone what you want or need. 

Be alone. Be very alone. 

The systems designed to support people with their money are traditionally male dominated. Women often feel ignored or patronized in meetings with financial advisors. In marriages they might avoid, acquiesce, or even be kept from hands-on interactions with their finances. Cultural norms taught, reinforced, and rewarded the idea that women were not smart enough, not trustworthy enough, not worthy of managing money. It wasn’t until 1974 that women could get a loan or a credit card without their husband, brother or father co-signing for them. That. Is. Crazy. Culture shifts take a long time to change. So it makes sense, that while this autonomy was granted 50 years ago, the idea that women just should stay out of the money conversation is still entrenched in our subconscious. 

So now, if you are a woman and you are in charge of your money. Or you need money, want money, have money or think about money…Chances are you might feel alone. Very Alone. 

It’s time to change that. 

We have seen firsthand what happens when women come together to learn about money, empower each other, hold each other accountable, and step into their greatness with their finances together. We think every woman should have a money club in the same way we have book clubs and mom clubs. And we should have trusted advisors, mentors, and resources. 

We don’t have to be alone any more. We are all in this together. No more crickets. No more shame. No more loneliness. No more myths of inability. No more stories of unworthiness. 

Who are the women around you that inspire and guide you in your finances? Who are the women you can talk openly with about your financial struggles and goals? Who are the women who can walk alongside you as you grow and challenge yourself? Are you ready to find your group?